Sexual Harassment in the Workplace

Sexual harassment in the workplace is, unfortunately, something that women, in particular, may face during their working lives. Women go out of the home and into the workplace, expecting to be treated as workers and colleagues, and not as sex objects, or substitute wives, or to be reminded that they are women. Those who are transsexual, and particularly male to female transsexual, will be no exception to this, and may face reverse gender harassment.

The European code on sexual harassment defines sexual harassment as “unwanted conduct of a sexual nature or other conduct based on sex affecting the dignity of women and men at work.” It can include unwelcome physical, verbal, or non- verbal conduct. The key is that behaviour is “unwanted by the recipient” but each individual is left to determine what behaviour is acceptable to him, or her, and what he, or she, regards as offensive. Sexual attention becomes sexual harassment if it is persisted in, once it has been made clear that it is regarded by the recipient as offensive. The European code is now persuasive on all industrial tribunals, as a result of the case of Wadman v Carpenter Farrer Partnership (I993), to the extent that all employers should now be considering the drafting of policies to combat sexual harassment in the workplace.

There is nothing to prevent an employer from introducing into his disciplinary code rules which would prohibit discrimination against employees on the grounds of their sexuality, or related reasons, such as transvestism or transsexualism. Many employers also include a promise not to discriminate on such grounds within their equal opportunity policy. As there is no legal provision in relation to sexuality, or to transvestism or transsexualism, there is no legislative framework around such matters. However, if there is such a provision in the disciplinary code, and a member of staff does harass an individual on the basis of his or her sexuality, which would include transvestism and transsexualism, then, provided that proper disciplinary proceedings are taken against them, and the harassment is sufficiently serious to warrant dismissal, that dismissal will be fair in the normal way. This approach was confirmed by an industrial tribunal in the case of British Home Stores Ltd. v Burchell (1978).

New provisions in section 40 of the Trade Union Reform and Employment Rights Act 1993 allow tribunals to impose limited reporting restrictions on parties’ identities, which would greatly assist any transsexual taking a case before an industrial tribunal, although there are no cases as yet, other than the case already mentioned, which is to come before Oxford Crown Court, of a transsexual who has been indecently assaulted. Furthermore, section 1 of the Sexual Offences (Amendment) Act 1992 provides for victims of indecent assault and other serious sexual offences, in that it is an offence to publish reports identifying the victim, unless they give their consent to be identified. These respective provisions, together with the case of P v S and Cornwall County Council (1993), greatly assist the transsexual, by no longer having to worry about running the gauntlet of adverse newspaper publicity.

You may decide that the only way to end the harassment, or to gain some financial compensation for what you have endured, is to take legal action. You might consider legal action in the following circumstances, such as:-

1. The harasser refuses to stop
2. Your union and your employer do nothing to resolve the problem.
3. Your employer offers an impossible solution such as moving you instead of the harasser.
4. You are being victimised after having made a complaint.
5. You have felt forced to leave your job by the harassment and lack of action by your employer.
6. You have been sacked.

However, most of us will want, when faced with harassment, to put a stop to it as quickly as possible, so as to create a pleasant working environment. You usually will want to stay in your job, if at all possible, and to solve the problem with a minimum of fuss. We want our relationships with our colleagues to stay smooth, and we want to limit the damage to our self confidence, and get on with living. The standard advice that is given by employment professionals in dealing with harassers is as follows:-

l. Make sure the harasser is informed by a you or someone else that you dislike his or her behaviour.
2. Tell him or her in writing and keep a copy.
3. If you confront the harasser in person, you could take someone such as a union representative, or someone senior in the office with you.
4. Keep a note of the date and time of each incident of harassment, with details of what the harasser did and said.
5. Tell your union representative or women’s officer.
6. Report the harasser to someone in authority in your organisation. Even if the senior person takes no effective action, this is an important step should you have to consider legal action.
7. If the harasser touches you on an intimate part of your body, you could report them to the police for indecent assault.

To take legal action in an Industrial Tribunal, you must do so within three months of the last incident of harassment. You must complete a form called Application to an Industrial Tribunal, which is known as the ITI, or “originating application” which is available from job centres and citizens advice bureaux. You should also complete the “green form” for legal aid, so that you can obtain some free legal advice and assistance. If you have been sacked after sexual harassment, or were forced to resign because of it, you can appeal to a tribunal under EPCA claiming unfair dismissal.

References

Saunders v Scottish National Camps Association (1981) IRLR 277
Wiseman v Salford City Council (1982) IRLR 202.
Whitlow v Alkanet Construction Limited (1975) IRLR 321.
Turner v Vestric (1981) IRLR 23.
British Home Stores Ltd. v Burchell (1978) IRLR 379.
EA White v British Sugar Corporation (1977) IRLR 121.
This information sheet is based on an article which appeared in GEMS News in June 1994 which was later included in the book Transvestism, Transsexualism and the Law by Melanie McMullan and Stephen Whittle. This book is at present out of print but is being revised and rewritten. Contact the Gender Trust for details about publication of the revised book.

Gender Trust – 2003, This information sheet is distributed by the Gender Trust and is intended as a basis for information only. The Gender Trust does not accept responsibility for the accuracy of any information contained in this sheet.

Sex and the Third Gender

Author’s note: The opinions expressed herein came out of my and my friends’ filthy minds. They do not necessarily represent the opinions of the entirety of the transgender community and their often stick-in-the-mud medical caregivers. If you don’t like it, don’t read it.

So this is my first column about one of the most tense and tricky subjects on earth, somewhere in there next to abortion and nuclear disarmament – transgender sexuality. We transgendered folk put in an awful lot of work to convince everyone – doctors, researchers, theoreticians, churches, parents, potential lovers, etc. – that being transgendered is not about sexual preference. It isn’t the “end of the gay continuum”, or anything like that. It has nothing to do with how we have sex, or want to have sex, or who we want to have it with. We’re just now getting them to believe it…well, some of them, anyway.

Yet we do have sex; most of us anyway. Sure, some of us are too mired in body dysphoria and the pain of having the “wrong genitals” to cope with it, and some of us don’t have understanding partners, or any partners at all. Yet most of the trannies (and I use that term affectionately) that I know do have sex lives, although our activities may not resemble those of most people. Yes, we fuck. Some of us fuck like bunnies, and we manage to do it while navigating a swamp of body discomfort and alienation, sometimes dragging along bewildered partners or would-be partners for the ride.

Whenever I come out to anyone, the first thing they do – or want to do – is stare at my crotch. Their eyes almost involuntarily flicker down to there, even if I’m sitting on the other side of a table and the only thing they can catch sight of is my meal. When I get up, they make sure to take a surreptitious look. They want to know: what do I have down there, and what do I do with it? Some will be blunt, with more or less obnoxiousness: “Hey, do you have a dick? Did you have the surgery?” Instead of being appalled or offended at their assumption that my genitals are their business, I prefer a different approach that nearly always gets rid of them: a mysterious smile and the comment, “You seem very interested in what’s between my legs. I’ll tell you about it, but you have to promise to get down on your knees and suck it, no matter what it is.” Works like a charm, every time. So far no one’s called my bluff.

When they see me with my wife, who’s a male-to-female transsexual, their eyes go back and forth, back and forth, and I know what they’re thinking. What do they have? What do they do with it? How the hell do they get it on? Does it look like anything I’d recognize? Once, after I’d read a rather graphic poem about our sexual practices at an erotic poetry reading, a guy sidled up to me and confessed he’d always wondered about it. I generally look ‘em in the eye and smile as evilly as possible, saying silently to them, yeah, I know you’re wondering, and you’re not likely to find out, except that we’re obviously having more fun than most people.

The hard truth of the matter is that those of us who have opted to change their bodies do have different anatomy from most single-gendered people, and they know it. Our anatomy may vary; some of us have full genital surgery, some partial, some none at all, and the reasons can range from price to preference to not wanting to jeopardize one’s orgasmic capacity. Transwomen may still have their original phalli (which they may or may not be able/willing to use in the normal way), or they may have their testicles removed, or an entire vaginoplasty, which may or may not have sensation. Transmen may have phalloplasties (which may or may not work), or they may have metaoidioplasties (which is sort of like phalloplasty lite; you get balls and a little tiny cock that still works), or, like me and most transmen in this country, they may be making do with their original genitals, with the modification of testosterone-enlarged clits. And some may hate having their hole touched, and some may love being banged there. We’re a cussed and finicky bunch, we are. (But we’re worth it.)

This smorgasbord of bits and pieces doesn’t help the bewildered non-trans person who’s staring at us across the room and….considering. Assuming you’ve gotten past the initial Eeek! reaction, your next thought after “What the hell do they do in bed?” might, just might, move on to: “Wow…what might they do in *my* bed?” If you’re adventurous, you might try to picture it. Let me tell you now, the likelihood of getting the actuality right, especially if you’re looking at your first tranny, is pretty low. But don’t let that discourage you. The sacred androgyne is still within your realm of possibilities, but you’d better be open-minded, open to negotiation, and have a good imagination.

At a workshop I did at the Boston Bisexual conference four years ago in Boston, most of the people attending were men who were interested in picking up male-to-female transsexuals, and wanted to know how to go about it. No mention was made of female-to-males, and most people had no idea what to do with either of us. (Further columns will follow on how best to approach, pick up, and treat in bed both of our nonstandard genders; be patient.) Still, I’ve seen a growing awareness in our community that there are some people out there who find us interesting not in spite of, but because of what we are. My friend and former lover Heather calls her kind “transfrienders”; if we folks of nonstandard gender and anatomy get you hot under the collar, you just might be one.

As a pornographer, a lot of what I used to see in TG porn fell into two categories. Both dealt only with MTFs (male-to-females), and FTMs were, as usual, MIA. One was transvestite porn, with its ten basic subplots of forced feminization and mothers cross-dressing their sons. After spending a whole day reading one friend’s extensive collection, I found my eyes (and my brain) glazing over. The other type is more visual; “chicks with dicks” do their thing with guys who apparently don’t want to admit they’re bisexual – they want to suck dick, and maybe even be fucked with it, but only if it’s “girl dick”, so they’re not really queers. Right. I’m sorry, anyone who sleeps with me or my wife is bisexual by default. (They are also intelligent, have excellent taste, and sit down carefully several times a month.)

I resent the fact that there isn’t enough hot, sexy porn written, photographed, and filmed that stars real (or could-be-real) transfolk with our real-life anatomical variety (and the variety of things that we are willing or unwilling to do with them) in ways that make us look strong, passionate, and like something worth drooling over. We need to do something about this, starting yesterday.

So I’ll start with this: Recently, a bunch of us transfolk were sitting around in a living room (OK, it was mine), and we started listing all the interesting names we have for our pre- or non-op genitals. (Vocabulary: Because less than half of us get surgery, most of us are “pre-operative”, meaning we haven’t been able to get the funding together to have the lower chassis rebuilt, or “non-operative”, meaning we choose not to risk iffy surgeries.) In order to deal with screwing around whilst using flesh bits we’d rather were quite different, we rename and reframe them by various little tricks – like using other terms for them.

Here’s our list. If it offends you, stop reading. You have been warned.

Transwomen’s penises: Clit On A Stick; Big Clit; The Decoration; Tootsie Roll (a la Lady Chablis); Inside-Out Cunt

Transwomen’s anal passages: Almostcunt; Earth Hole (as opposed to Water Hole); Cloaca (because, like birds and reptiles, one does everything with it); Temp Cunt

Transmen’s clits: Dicklet (or Diclit); Cocklet; Minicock; Hot Button

Transmen’s strap-on penises: Magic Dick (as opposed to girl dick or boy dick); Rubber Hose, Magic Wand (never goes soft!); Cock Mask; Detachable Penis

Transmen’s vaginas: Front Hole; Auxiliary Asshole; Inside-Out Cock; Fisting Hole; Cockpit; Boycunt; Glory Hole; Guy Pie; Bonus Round

Head spinning yet? Good. This is just to get you thinking of all the ways new vocabulary can rename and reframe anatomy and action. What we can name, we can tell stories about. What we can tell stories about, we can tell hot, gooey, heavy-breathing, squirmin’-in-your-chair stories about. And if we can do that, we can create a picture in people’s minds of what it might be like to do “this” with “that”.

There are a lot of sexual activities that I enjoy now that I never would have imagined I’d enjoy when I was, say, seventeen. Maybe that’s just about getting older, but I strongly suspect it has more to do with learning about new things. There are things I do now that I didn’t even have a clear mental picture of at seventeen, so I couldn’t fantasize about them. If we give people a fantasy – “you and that hot tranny with a seven rubber gloves, a tube of lube, an enema bag, and a couple of lurid red-and-black striped rubber sex toys, on the bathroom floor-”….well, you might start slipping yourself into that mental role, just to see if it fits. Maybe it won’t. Maybe it will and you’ll beat off to it for three nights straight.

It’s what I first learned about sex: context creates heat. Context makes you feel like you know what you’re doing, and you want to be doing it. Everything else we can do ourselves, with a little patience and a whole lot of lube.

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Renaming and Reframing: Sex and the Third Gender

2004, amboyz.org

Transsexual Teens: Real Life Horror Films

Most of us love a good Horror Film. We wait for that moment when we are truly scared as our heart jumps out of our chest. We spasm in our seats and our feet come off of the floor. We love that thrill. What about afterwards will we be scared? Its not likely because it wasn’t real. We tell ourselves over and over “Its only a movie” pass the popcorn.

Imagine though that you were the character and that this was really happening to you. Our minds couldn’t fathom such a cataclysmic disaster of such biblical proportions. Our minds would literally shatter.

Yet everyday Transsexual Teens go through a real life horror story called puberty. Body Parts are turning into something foreign to them. Voices are changing, things are growing. They are becoming their worst nightmare right inside of their own skin, something repulsive to them. Its sheer terror. Meanwhile their peers are going through the same thing but its different for them. They embrace their metamorphosis as the caterpillar becomes a butterfly. Their minds and bodies become one. This is not the case of the Transsexual teen.

In the movies at least the victim at least has other characters to share their terror with. In real life though transsexual teens often go through their horror alone. Most dare not share what’s happening to them. They dare not tell their homophobic parents and most have few if any real friends. Most school counselors are ill trained and overcome with their own prejudices to be helpful. The terror is the same whether its for male to female (MTF) Transsexuals or female to males. Who do they tell? Imagine the terror as a Teen FTM has monthly periods and an MTF Transsexual has nocturnal erections. Who will quiet their nightmares?

Teenage years are difficult enough for everyone. It certainly is no picnic even for a psychologically healthy kid. A transsexual teen though does not have this advantage. Their minds and bodies are not in harmony with each other. Most have know this from their earliest memories at the age of four or five. Growing up knowing you are a different gender than what you appear is the essence of a living nightmare.

Is there a solution? Yes there is. It involves non-judgmental listening. Don’t assume this is just a phase. This has been with them since Kindergarten or earlier. Its only rearing its head now because of the terrifying physical changes they are going through. Their minds didn’t suddenly change. They’ve always felt this way.

Whether you are a parent or a school counselor it is important that you recognize this as a life threatening reality. The only solution is to get Professional help from a competent Gender Dysphoria Specialist.

Bear in mind that the suicide attempt rate for preoperative Transsexuals has been estimated as high as 50%. Many are from their teenage years when they are most vulnerable. Transsexuality is not a moral dilemma, it is a physical one.

Parents are often shocked because they feel they would know if their son or daughter had any opposite sex traits, such as excessive femininity or masculinity. They don’t realize that many transsexuals hide it and don’t really want to be what they are for their own protection. Puberty is often the distress trigger. Transsexuality is not a choice but rather is inborn. It is not a moral choice and there is scientific proof to bear that out (see link below). It is a medical condition.

If steps are taken now to just listen to our transgendered teens and take real action then the odds of them living a normal life as themselves is very good. The sooner their nightmare ends the better for all concerned. One can only hope that the incidence of those that have lived through 50 years of Gender Dysphoria will come to an end. Even one year is too much.

2006, By Laura Amato @ Laura’s Playground

Trans Man, Female to Male Transgender: Sexuality

By and large, the transsexual condition is referred to, and often dealt with, as a sexual problem. Gender identity and sexuality are two separate aspects of our lives. Yet, it is amazing how many people have trouble conceptualizing the difference. Since transsexuals began approaching the medical community after W.W.II, the general view of those practitioners was one of taking a social deviant (socially embarrassing, “effeminate” men) and through chemical and surgical adjustments create a socially acceptable woman. Once it was discovered that a portion of these “new” women took female partners and identified as lesbians, the medical screening process was tightened up. Those who identified as anything other than heterosexual were forced to lie. If they mentioned any behavior that smacked of bisexuality or homosexuality, they were rejected from most gender programs. Those who felt they could not fight the system learned to lie. The medical community taught many transsexuals that their gender and sexual identity were inseparable.

One of the first people to challenge the gender programs and the medical professionals on this attitude was Louis Sullivan. He was the founder of the largest and longest-running FTM organization (to date) in the world, now known as FTM International, Inc. Lou identified not only as an FTM, but also as a gay man. He spent ten years of his life writing letters, personally visiting doctors, educating them, and persevering against the system. For ten years, he was denied hormone therapy or surgery. Finally, his persistence paid off and he was granted the right to pursue the treatment he felt he needed. He was the first FTM who openly led the way for others who identified as gay or bisexual.

Within the FTM experience, the entire gamut of the sexual spectrum is covered. A large portion of FTMs identify as heterosexual men who date and even marry women. There are those who identify as non-sexual and others who see themselves as asexual, choosing only self-stimulation. A large number of people identify as gay or queer, others identify as bisexual. There are those who identify as pansexual or simply sexual.

Of course with the exploration of sexuality comes the discovery and exploration of sex. And with sex, the specter of HIV/AIDS and STDs arises. Most of the FTMs on the street hustling for survival and money are fully aware of the risks they run. They face some of the tough problems that other male hustlers face on the streets. Most johns will pay higher dollar if they don’t have to use a condom. In San Francisco, $10 to $30 dollars will get you a blowjob. These are usually performed with condoms. To kick without a condom, the asking price is $75 to $150. Several of the young men have commanded prices of $500 or more for the john’s privilege to not use a rubber. It seems an awfully low price for their life. The chance of drug use, mostly intravenous, is high for these young men. To our knowledge, at this point in time, the number of young FTM men who work the streets is low.

The FTMs who are probably at the highest risk of transmitting or contracting STDs are those who identify as heterosexual. Many hetero FTMs feel they are immune to HIV/AIDS because it is still considered a gay disease, and not all FTMs emerge from the dyke community. Their biggest risk is their ignorance and lack of education. This is probably less so in urban areas, but the attitude is still alarmingly proliferant. Not surprisingly, those FTMs who identify as gay or bisexual are usually the most educated in regard to any STD as well as safer sex practices. This has not, however, kept FTMs from contracting HIV or other STDs. In both urban and rural areas, the number of FTMs who have sero-converted has risen in the past three years. Herpes is wide-spread if not epidemic. A large number of FTMs have spoken up about cases of gonorrhea as well. When asked why they choose not use condoms or other forms of protection, many state that they have felt pressured into not using them. Several have spoken of being told they won’t be seen as “real” men if they insist on protection. This kind of pressure has come from straight women, bisexual men and women, and gay men. Peer pressure seems to run the gamut in the sexual spectrum as well. More education is needed about safe sex that recognizes the unique conditions of FTM bodies and psyches.

Notes on Gender Transition

Revised September, 1997

FTM 101 — The Invisible Transsexuals

By: Shadow Morton, Yosenio Lewis, Aaron Hans–James Green, Editor

How Do I Deal With A Transgender Person?

It is extremely important to refer to a transgender person by the pronoun appropriate to their presented gender. In other words, if someone identifies as female, then refer to them as she; if they identify as male, refer to them as he. If you are not sure, ASK them what they want. Once you know, be as consistent as possible. It’s okay if you forget or slip up once in a while. Nevertheless, it is very important to make the effort. Never use the word “it” when referring to someone who is transgendered, either in their presence or to others when they are not present. To do so is incredibly insulting and disrespectful.

When someone’s transgender status comes to your attention, do not assume that it is a fad or trend – something that will be discarded when it is no longer fashionable. While public discussion about transgenderism and transsexuality is a relatively recent phenomenon, most TG people, particularly transsexuals have dealt with their gender issues for many years – many times at great personal and professional cost. It is important to trust that their decision to present themselves in a gender different from their birth gender is not one made lightly or without due consideration.

Do NOT “out” someone (tell others that they are TG) without his or her permission. Also, do not assume that everyone knows. Some TG people “pass” very well and the only way someone would know would be if they were told. The decision to tell someone about their gender issues should be left to the TG person themselves.

Never ask a TG person how he or she has sex or what their genitals look like. That is inappropriate in every situation.

Do NOT assume a TG person is straight. Do not assume they are gay, lesbian or bisexual, either.

First Night Out Transgender

So, you want to go out, feel liberated… but don’t know where to go or how to go about it? Some quick tips and suggestions follow.

Get your makeup done professionally and obtain a wig that feminizes you and looks natural. Or, if you’re going to do your own makeup, do the homework first — read magazines and practice. Thre are many articles out there on makeup regarding skin tones, highlighting and contouring. And even articles about hair –different styles that enhance different types of face shapes. Style and color are very important. Do the very best you can and listen to advise from others you meet.

Be sure your clothing will blend in with the venue you’re headed to. Don’t wear faded jeans to a formal event, nor dress like Alexis Carrington for a rock concert. Going shopping? NO fishnets and/or mini skirts!

Wear shoes you can walk in! A wobbly gal attracts attention (and not the good kind)

Take a ride in the car. Get gas, go shopping! You will find that IF your attitude is carefree, others most likely will be as well. Good posture, and a confident outlook will get you far. Believe in you remind that you are simply a gal like all the rest going about her business. People are generally too busy to notice you. If they do notice, why do you care?

Some gals find that wearing sunglasses gives them a sense of security. If you need to speak, do so softly and slower then you normally do? Try to avoid that falsetto that everyone cansee past.

An LGBTI bar or party is always a great “bet” for an outing, espicially a first outing. Or the village in NYC – just about anywhere there is safe, check the events calendar in the community section with listings of friendly places to go.

For an outstanding first experience try known establishments like a FemmeFever event. We are having our Gala Ball on April 18th and go out of our way to make it comfortable and fun for all! From walking you into the ballroom from your car or room – and more.

Do a little exploring… Ask around… check out the New York or Arts & Enertainment section for past events that maybe coming around again.

There is more out there for you then imaginable! Sharing the experience is priceless!

Abigail Thorn Comes Out As Trans

Abigail Thorn of philosophy tube came out a transgender! In the clip, she says she came out “ages ago” in private, but this was the first time she was telling her fans.

It begins: “Hello friends! I’m delighted to say I am a trans woman; my name is Abigail and you can refer to me with she/her.”

She thanked those close to her who had kept her news secret while she “prepared to come out publicly”.

Thorn continued: “Things are very, very bad for trans people in the UK, and they’re getting worse.”

“My existing following means I have now instantly become one of the most recognisable transgender people in the country and I feel an enormous pressure to be ‘good at it’.”

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The channel began in 2013, when Thorn sought to provide free lessons in philosophy in the wake of the 2012 increase in British tuition fees. Her videos discuss philosophy through a left-wing perspective often informed by developments in contemporary politics.

Transgender Celebrities: Laverne Cox

Laverne Cox (born May 29, 1972) is an American actress and LGBTI+ advocate. Featured as Sophia Burset in the Netflix series Orange Is the New Black, she became the first openly transgender person to be nominated for a Primetime Emmy Award in any acting category. She is the first open transsexual shown.

In 2015, Laverne Cox won a Daytime Emmy Award for the Outstanding Private Class Special as executive producer of Presents: The T Word, becoming the first openly transgender woman to win this award.

In 2017, she became the first transgender person to play a transgender character on the TV broadcast as Cameron Wirth on CBS’s Doubt series.

The ‘Orange is the New Black’ star talks to The Hollywood Reporter about nearly quitting acting and why she’s chosen to use her latest awards nod to spotlight other trans performers.

When Laverne Cox turned 40 in May 2012, she was knee-deep in debt and ready to trade in the title of “actress” for “grad student.”

After 20 years of grinding out a career as a performer in New York, Cox had a conversation with a onetime co-worker from Lucky Cheng’s Restaurant & Bar, where she was working at the time. “They had just gone to school and were about to graduate from graduate school and they were like, ‘You need to go to school,’ ” she recalled. She agreed. “When I moved to New York City in 1993, I thought I would be a superstar in two, three years tops. That didn’t quite happen.”

Though she had some film and TV credits on her resume, it felt like the time had come to close the curtain. “It was a devastating realization. It’s like, OK, you’re 40 years old. Maybe that’s all God wanted for me in this business. Maybe this is all I’m supposed to do. Now I should just listen to what the universe seems to be telling me about this acting thing and try something else. Then I got this audition. It turns out that God had a different plan.”

That blueprint included a seven-year run playing Sophia Burset on the Netflix prison series Orange is the New Black, a role that has garnered the now-47-year-old three Emmy nominations for outstanding guest actress. It’s a historic feat — Cox was the first transgender performer ever nominated for an acting award — and one, she admits, she’s still processing. “The day it happened, I cried,” Cox told The Hollywood Reporter during a recent In Studio visit. “I was in London shooting a film [Jolt with Kate Beckinsale]. I was even more surprised about this one than the other two. If this is happening now, there has to be a bigger reason.”

Cox has decided that the reason should be for her to help shift the spotlight to other transgender performers in Hollywood. “The year when a show like Pose is on the air and I honestly thought I would no longer be the only trans person nominated for an acting Emmy. No other trans actors were nominated this year, I thought, okay, this is an opportunity to lift up those performances to talk about this,” she said. “Like, invite the Television Academy members to consider the brilliant work of some of the trans actors who are working on television. Certainly, you know, an Emmy should be about the work and the talent and what you’ve brought to the craft, but, you know, in 2019, why should there just be one trans person who’s been nominated for an acting Emmy?”

Even though it is her, Cox is not content claiming all the credit. “I share this nomination with everyone in our cast, in our crew. I love all of you. Thank you, thank you, thank you for seven incredible years,” she said. “Thank you, Jenji Kohan.”

Maddie Hasson Has Come Out as Bisexual

The ‘Impulse’ star – who tied the knot with her composer husband Julian Brink in 2015 – opened up about her sexuality on social media when asked to share a “photo with gay/bi vibes” by one of her followers.

Responding to the question on her Instagram Story, she replied: “Hi, I’m bi and proud!”

Meanwhile, the ‘Twisted’ actress recently spoke about the challenges of playing the role of Henrietta ‘Henry’ Coles, “who internalises a lot of her emotions”, in the YouTube Originals drama series ‘Impulse’.

The teen possesses the ability to teleport, but has no control over her destination.

The 26-year-old star said last month of her alter ego: “Yeah, it’s definitely interesting to play somebody who internalises a lot of her emotions because I think there’s a tendency when you’re creating a story, to want to see some of those beats externalised. It’s easy to want to go in that direction, but that would go against the character. So, it’s hard finding a balance of getting what we need to tell the story while also staying true to who she is and the reality of her, as a person.”

Maddie will next be seen in James Wan’s upcoming horror flick, ‘Malignant’, which is slated for release by Warner Bros. in 2021.

The motion picture was due to be released in 2020, but was delayed due to the coronavirus pandemic.

Subsequently, the film will now stream simultaneously on HBO Max for a limited period.

What is Bisexuality?

Bisexuality is often defined as having an interest in or romantic feelings towards people of both sexes.

Thus, a bisexual man will be attractive to men as well as women. A bisexual woman will be attracted to men as well as women.

Men and women who say they are bisexual love men and women at the same time or at different times in their lives. As opposed to a black and white vision that opposes two completely separate worlds (heterosexuality and homosexuality), bisexuality brings together a wide variety of situations between the two. The word “bisexuality” used in its present sense by doctors and psychologists at the end of the 19th century is quite new.

Conversely, what we now consider “bisexuality” was common in some ancient civilizations or cultures where there was limited contact with the Western world. For some scholars of sexuality (Sigmund Freud, Alfred Kinsey) people are bisexual and it is the society that determines the “norm” or possible. Identifying yourself as “bisexual” is more common during adolescence than at other ages. Some people quickly realize that this is a stage for gays who are not yet “compromised”. Others see this as a sign of snobbery among some heterosexuals. Fortunately, bisexuals are increasingly being accepted for who they are in their diversity. And you meet bisexuals of all ages.

Bisexual people are more reluctant than anyone else to label their experiences. This is also found in characters in novels that can be described as such “in spite of themselves”, such as Balthazar in Cédric Érard’s book, Jai no sleep, or Elio in Later or Never.

Women and Bisexuality

Bisexuality has different meanings for different people. Bisexuality can be defined as the potential of a person to be attracted physically, emotionally and/or sexually to people regardless of their gender. In its simplest form, bisexuality is the attraction of a person to men and women. More complex forms may include attractions to transgendered people for example, a married woman makes love to her husband while he crossdresses as a woman or a lesbian is in a relationship with a male identified pre-operative female to male transsexual.

More women than you think harbor bisexual feelings, dreams and fantasies. Many keep them at that level. Others express them through close emotional but non-sexual friendships. Still other women rejoice in their bisexuality, whether out publicly or privately, in social or political settings, in their relationships or just through sex. Some women discover their bisexuality at an early age while others find it emerges over time as one becomes aware of and open to life’s possibilities. Some women, as do some men, try to ignore or suppress their feelings and deny whom they really are. They may choose to call themselves straight or lesbian to fit the expectations of others or their own need to belong. One should strive to be true to one’s self first through accepting one’s feelings and accepting others.This can lead to more open, honest, caring and fulfilling relationships and an inner peace and happiness.

Some people falsely believe that bisexuality is about swinging with other couples or singles of both genders. The truth is that bisexuality is about whom you are, not whom you are with. That aside, most bisexual people tend to be attracted to one gender more or less than the other. The degree of attraction towards one or the other can also change over time, even from week to week. Many bisexual people live their lives in monogamous relationships, committed to one partner but aware of their attractions towards other men and women. Others may have serial monogamous relationships or live in triads or group relationships or have a primary relationship and secondary partners. Many now turn to bisexual support and social groups for friendships.

Why not !!! Choosing a Bisexual identity to describe yourself is as valid as any other person who chooses a Gay, Lesbian, Queer or Straight identity. Whatever identity a person chooses, it should be their choice and not forced upon them by others, society or subjected to criticism, harassment or discrimination by others. Our sexual identity is only one of many identities we have: student, wife, mother, business woman, activist, poet, greenie, Aboriginal, Chinese, Australian, black, white, working class, feminist, lover, etc.

Some women choose bisexual labels that identify themselves further such as Straight-Identified Bisexual, or Lesbian-Identified Bisexual, Bisexual Queer, Bisexual Lesbian or Bisexual Dyke. Just “Bi” is often used. Being Bisexual is about being in touch with your feelings rather than whom you’re having sex with. It is about not limiting your options to one gender.

Your sexual identity can be a very private thing or a very public thing. It might be used in a very sexual way or a very political way. You may use it to describe the way you feel or the way you behave or the type of relationships you have. The way you express your bisexuality must ultimately be your choice for happiness.

“In dealing with such issues (husband’s bisexuality) I have examined my own sexuality. I have had to admit to myself that I too could be bi-sexual. I have acknowledged to myself that if I was looking for a partner again, I might not limit potential choices to just men. I have shared this with a few people close to me (including Peter). I have to thank Peter for providing a framework to explore this issue without a lot of negativity or guilt. I ponder why sexual orientation can change during a person’s lifetime. I have also begun to question how much of an individual’s sexual orientation is due to socialisation and how much much is biological. Perhaps a lot more people who regard themselves as gay/lesbian or heterosexual, are in fact bi-sexual.”

From “My Journey” by Octavia Filbert, 1995.

Women, HIV/AIDS and Sexual Health

Women are not immune to sexually transmitted diseases including the Human Immuno-deficiency Virus (HIV). World wide, it was estimated that the number of women with HIV and AIDS will surpass the number of men by the year 2000. In the USA, AIDS is the leading killer of young women while in Australia, the number of new HIV infections in women is slowly on the rise. The rate of HIV infection in parts of Central Europe, Africa, Central & South America, India and South East Asia is still increasing.

HIV is found in the vaginal secretions, in blood, semen (cum), in breast milk, in the secretions inside the arse (rectum) of infected people. Unprotected sex can transmit HIV and diseases such as gonorrhea, syphilis, herpes, genital warts and hepatitis B from an infected person to an uninfected woman or man. A woman can transmit these diseases to another woman through infected vaginal and anal secretions or blood via fingers, fists, sex toys or on the penis of a mutual male partner.

The use of disposable gloves and condoms can reduce the risk of infection. Use condoms and a water based lubricant when having intercourse with men. While the risk of HIV infection through oral sex is low, it has occured and other sexually transmitted diseases can be transmitted during oral-vaginal, oral-anal or oral-penile sex. The use of a barrier such as a dental dam or condom can be used. HIV and some other infections can be transmitted from mother to baby in the womb, during birth or may occur during breast feeding. The sharing of needles to inject drugs or medication can transmit HIV, Hepatitis B and C and syphilis so always use clean needles and syringes and never share them. Genital wart infections have been linked to cancer of the cervix and sexually active women should have regular pap smear screening and women over 40 should have regular breast and pap smear screening. Vaccinations for Hepatitis A and B are available from sexual health clinics or your doctor.

Be wise, be safe.

Presented by the Australian Bisexual Network – 2013

Gay Friendly Places: Go See Them!

1. Copenhagen, Denmark

I”ll start with a tribute to Denmark. In 1989 it became the first nation in the world to recognize registered same-sex partnerships. Visit its capital, Copenhagen, and have a drink at Europe’s oldest openly gay bar, Centralhjørnet. It opened in the 1950s.

2. New Zeland

I’m proud to mention New Zealand. It’s a small country that refuses to be pushed around. It defied America by not allowing nuclear submarines stations or docking places. It passed same-sex marriage in 2013, leaving Australia behind. In 1998 New Zealand was the first country to adopt the label “Gay/Lesbian Friendly”in matters of tourism and business. It is the home of the talented Topp Twins. These lesbian twins have delighted audiences with comedy, yodeling and activist singing. They dress in drag and have audiences howling in the aisles.

3.Toronto, Canada

In 2014, Toronto hosted World Pride. I was there and it was amazing. I watched police women in uniform holding hands with their girlfriends or wives. Same-sex marriage came to Canada in 2005. Spain just beat us by months. Toronto’s The Village, located in Church-Wellesley, is the cultural hub of the city, bursting with galleries, theatres and gay-friendly businesses. Home to events such as Pride Week Celebrations, Pride March and Dyke March, gay sub-culture has blossomed and thrived in The Village for decades and it will soon be home to the world’s first gay-focused athletic centre at 519 Church St.

4. Palm Springs, USA

Located approximately 100 miles east of Los Angeles, Palm Springs is a sun-seeker’s paradise where the sun shines almost all year round and where the city has embraced everything gay. Palm Springs provides the LGBTQ traveller with an amazing array of outdoor activities, excellent shopping and dining, and the world’s best poolside lounging. Palm Springs also offers the largest volume of male- and female-only accommodation anywhere in the world (many of these places are clothing-optional).

5. Sitges, Spain

Ole! Spain legalized same-sex marriage in 2005 despite forces from the Catholic Church trying to block it. History has made many Spaniards remember that the Church sided with the Fascist Dictator, General Franco, in Spain’s Civil War.

The coastal city of Sitges rests approximately 35km southwest of Barcelona. Sitges is home to Spain’s first ever gay disco which opened back in the 1980s.

Berlin

6. Berlin, Germany

While Copenhagen may have the oldest “openly gay” bar, Berlin had discrete (sometimes hidden) gay bars that can date back to the 1920s. Gay flags are flown openly outside bars and restaurants. The districts of Schöneberg (which hosts Gay Pride), Kreuzberg and Prenzlauerberg provide a diverse range of clubs, bars and restaurants for sampling. With no ‘closing time’ in Berlin, the party never ends!

7. Skiathos, Mykonos, Lesbos -Greece

When I think of Greece, I think of Sappho. Many lesbians have made the pilgrimage to the island of the goddess. Trish and I have placed it on our ‘bucket list’ of places to go. It was Jackie Onassis (wife of President Kennedy) who brought the island of Mykonos to world attention in the 1970s. Like so many Greek islands, Mykonos has it whitewashed houses flanked by the deep blue Mediterranean Sea.

For a less hedonistic holiday, the sandy beaches, crystal clear waters and pine forested hills of Skiathos offer a relaxed and authentic experience for the LGBTQ traveller

8. New York City, USA

The Stonewall riots that occurred in the late ’60s in Greenwich Village are synonymous with the birth of the modern gay-rights movement. The incredibly inclusive communities of the West Village, Chelsea and Hell’s Kitchen provide a fabulous array of gay-friendly accommodation options. Littered with significant LGBTQ landmarks such as Christopher St, the Harvey Milk School, the Lesbian Herstory Archives and, hello, Broadway and the Theater District, New York is a gay traveller’s mecca.

9. Reykjavik, Iceland

The world’s northernmost capital, Reykjavik, has been described as one of the friendliest places and most inclusive on Earth. In 2015, Reykjavik will host its 17th Gay Pride march (one of Europe’s oldest LGBTQ parades), and the 11th Bears on Ice event. Iceland also has some of the world’s most progressive laws. In 2006, same-sex couples were granted equal rights with their heterosexual counterparts without limitation. Wander behind waterfalls, descend into dormant volcanoes, or while away a day in one of the many geothermal lagoons – this is an adventurer’s paradise.

10. Montevideo, Uruguay

What an accomplishment! Uruguay, the smallest of the South American countries, legalized same-sex marriage in 2013. It was beaten by Argentina, that legalized marriage equality in 2010.

The relaxed attitude present in the Uruguayan capital of Montevideo provides a brilliant juxtaposition to the hustle and bustle of the likes of Buenos Aires.

Some of these places may be beyond your budget. However, there are ways to travel. Have you considered working on a cruise line? Would you exchange your home with a gay person(s).?

Can you take time off to house/pet sit? Would you consider working for an airline or travel agent? Then, there’s also the lottery and dreams! paula.

Paula, 2015, stories4hotbloodedlesbians.com

Gay Marriage: Quotes of Tolerance and Inspiration

“Same-sex marriage has not created problems for religious institutions; religious institutions have created problems for same-sex marriage.”

(DaShanne Stokes)

“For the hundreds of thousands of Californians in gay and lesbian households who are managing their day-to-day lives, this decision affirms the full legal protections and safeguards I believe everyone deserves.” (Arnold Schwarzenegger – movie star and ex Governor of California)

“Gay people getting married is not a threat to the institution of marriage. You know what’s a threat to the institution of marriage?

Infidelity is! Hate is! Unforgiveness is! Apathy is! Coldheartedness is! Fear is!

And you know what’s a threat to the kids?

It’s not having gay parents!

Most gay kids have straight parents!

And plenty of gay parents raise respectable, straight kids!

The threat to children isn’t their parents being gay;

the threat to children is their parents not loving one another!

Not caring for one another!

Not being crazy about each other!

Domestic violence is a threat to children.

Stupidity is a threat to children.

A swimming pool in the backyard with no supervision is a threat to children!”

(C. JoyBell C.

Gay marriage will be universally accepted in time. But if I may be so bold as to say to gays and lesbians, don’t wait for that time to arrive.

Just as my father and his generation did not ‘wait’ for their civil rights, nor should you. The toothpaste ain’t going back in the tube. The tide has turned. John Ridley)

I support gay marriage. I believe they have a right to be as miserable as the rest of us. (Kinky Friedman

People should be allowed to marry, and gay marriage should be out there. If a man or a woman has a good partner and they love each other with their heart and soul, let them marry. I am very much for gay marriage. (Pierce Brosnan (actor)

“New Rule: Gay marriage won’t lead to dog marriage. It is not a slippery slope to rampant inter-species coupling.

When women got the right to vote, it didn’t lead to hamsters voting.

No court has extended the equal protection clause to salmon. And for the record, all marriages are “same sex” marriages. You get married, and every night, it’s the same sex.”

Paula, 2018, stories4hotbloodedlesbians.com

Best Paid and Free Gay Dating Apps

There are paid and free versions of the gay dating applications in the list, and the information is based on the information on the websites.

You can comment if there are gay dating apps you want added, you and the app developers are responsible for any responsibility that may occur in the apps.

The applications in this article are for informational purposes only.

The order is mixed.

GayCupid

GayCupid is a premier Gay dating site helping gay men connect and mingle with other gay singles online. Sign up for a free membership to start browsing 1000s of fantastic gay personals from around the world. Take advantage of our advanced messaging features to interact with gay men online.Join GayCupid free today!

GayCupid is part of the well-established Cupid Media network that operates over 30 reputable niche dating sites. With a commitment to connecting gay singles worldwide, we bring to you a safe and easy platform to use to help you meet your match.

Whether you’re looking for love locally or internationally, we are committed to helping you find the perfect match, no matter where in the world he may be.

GayCupid is a premium gay dating app designed to connect thousands of gay singles and help them find their perfect match, making us one of the most trusted gay dating apps. Whether you are looking for love locally or internationally we are committed to helping you find your perfect gay partner. With the GayCupid mobile app, you can create a new account and begin writing your love story in a matter of minutes. Join now and start browsing profiles!

Once installed, the GayCupid app allows you to:

• Sign up or log into your GayCupid account anytime, anywhere

• Create, edit and update your profile on the go

• Upload new photos

• Search for matches from our database made up of gay singles from all over the world

• Communicate via our advanced messaging features

• Receive instant notifications

• Upgrade your membership

Hornet

Your Hornet Profile is a portrait of you. It displays posts from the moments of your life, showcasing you and your interests. Inviting guys to connect with you in a meaningful way – based on who you are, and what you’re passionate about.

The Hornet Feed is all about connecting you to your community. Through trends and stories, there is always a conversation to be had – making interacting with other guys easy by liking and commenting on their posts, or starting a conversation through chat.

Discover all the fun and fabulous of the gay community with Hornet’s acclaimed editors, thousands of community leaders, your friends, and the guy next door.

Whether you’ve just come out or are ready to join in – Hornet gives you immediate access to over 25 million guys and is only a download away.

CONNECT

PROFILES are rich portraits of yourself and others featuring photos and posts giving a fuller picture of you and those you want to connect with

CONNECTING is easy – liking and commenting on posts, and sending heartstings makes for quick introductions

CHAT with guys about mutual interests based on profiles that show you who they are and allow them to see who you are

FOLLOW your friends and anyone you want to stay connected with to see their posts, pictures, and videos on their feed

DISCOVER

FILTERS enable you to find exactly who you’re looking for and where you can find them

EXPLORE the guys in your neighborhood or anywhere around the globe

HASHTAGS allow you to discover other guys who share the same interests to make a connection

JOIN

JOIN over 25 million users on Hornet across the globe

BE A PART of discussions with Community Leaders on current topics and learn about the hottest trends all curated by Hornet’s team of editors and a worldwide network of influencers

MEET anyone anytime – there’s always someone online

SHARE

THE FEED features posts by guys you follow, guys nearby, influencers, and guys we think you’ll want to connect with

POSTS reflect you and your interests allowing others to respond to everything you post

SAFETY

PRIVACY is at the heart of Hornet – it’s designed by the gay community, for the gay community, built with privacy front and center

MODERATORS and staff of Hornet ensure the community is a safe space for you to express yourself

SUPPORT is free and always available 24/7

Grindr

Grindr is the world’s #1 FREE mobile social networking app for gay, bi, trans, and queer people to connect. Chat and meet up with interesting people for free, or upgrade to Grindr XTRA for more features, more fun, and more chances to connect.

Grindr is faster and better than ever:

• NEW – Assemble your crew with Group Chat!

• See people nearby based on your location

• Browse re-designed profiles with bigger photos

• Chat and share private photos

• Filter your search to find what you want

• Customize your profile to share more about yourself

• Star your favorites and block others

• Report people easily and safely

• Send your location and make it easier to meet

• More ways to quickly find what you’re looking for

• More ways to chat with people around the world

Create and personalize your profile now to include more about you, what you’re looking for, and more. Within minutes you’ll be ready to connect, chat, and meet.

Looking for even more? Upgrade your Grindr experience to XTRA for more features, more freedom and more fun. Grindr XTRA subscription features include:

• No 3rd party ads

• See 6x the profiles, up to 600 at once

• View only people who are online now

• View only profiles with a photo

• More blocks and favorites

• Access to all premium filters

• Chat easily with saved phrases

• Send multiple photos at once

Scruff

SCRUFF is the top-rated and most reliable app for gay, bi, trans and queer guys to connect.

SCRUFF is an independent, LGBTQ owned and operated company, and we use the app that we build.

We’re proud to give users a private and secure experience, a friendly and diverse community, and more features than any other gay dating app.

We’re dedicated to protecting our members’ data and improving user experience, so you’ll never see banner ads on SCRUFF and we won’t sell your data to shady 3rd party companies.

MAKE REAL CONNECTIONS:

15+ million guys, no spambots.

Find exactly the guys you like by using SCRUFF’s powerful search and filters.

View and chat with guys from your neighborhood or around the world.

SCRUFF connects you with the guys you like.

CONNECT IN ALL KINDS OF WAYS:

SCRUFF gives users all kinds of ways to find all types of connections:

Browse and chat with guys from your neighborhood or around the world.

Use powerful search and filters to find exactly who you’re into.

See a new stack of guys every day on SCRUFF Match – the more you swipe, the smarter it gets about what you’re looking for.

EXPRESS YOURSELF:

SCRUFF makes it easy to show all sides of who you are:

Share your story with multiple profile pics, rich profiles, private albums and more

Let guys know what you’re into with profile details like sex preferences and safer-sex practices.

HOSTING:

SCRUFF hosts the world’s first live queer quiz show:

10 questions over 3 rounds — get all 10 right and get a piece of the cash prize (up to $500)

See who’s playing nearby and see who’s been eliminated from the game

Woof and fav to make a connection during or after the game

MATCH:

Find guys looking for the same thing with SCRUFF Match:

Every day, SCRUFF Match shows you a new stack of guys who are looking for guys like you.

Swipe left to pass, right if you’re interested — if it’s a match, we’ll let you both know.

Choose “Ask later” if you’re not sure about him, and we’ll show him again tomorrow.

SCRUFF EVENTS:

Your social guide to LGBTQ events, curated daily by our team.

RSVP, see who else is going, and find your wingman.

Browse the top LGBTQ parties, prides, festivals, and events near you or around the globe.

Be entered to win free upgrades to SCRUFF Pro when you RSVP and attend “SCRUFF Recommends” events.

SCRUFF VENTURE:

Your global gay travel companion:

Let guys know when you’re visiting and ask locals for tips.

Share your travel plans on your profile, so guys in your destination city know you’ll be there soon.

Chat with local guys at your destination before you arrive.

A SMARTER, SAFER EXPERIENCE:

SCRUFF prioritizes our users’ safety and security:

No spambots, no programmatic advertising

24/7 support for our community

We never share your data with Facebook, 3rd party ad networks or data aggregators.

Unlike other apps, message history, photos, and videos sync across your devices and never get lost.

More Bears in More Places…we are a global community with over 10,000,000 members worldwide. GROWLr allows you to meet other Bears from around the world or around the corner.

GROWLr

GROWLr is free, fast, reliable and easy to use.

A Bear is a gay man who belongs to a very inclusive part of the gay community. Some are hairy, some are muscular, and some are heavy-set and some are none of those things. Being a bear is about being yourself – we are all amazing no matter how we are labeled.

Bear Chasers are the men who love Bears – and if you’re a Chaser you’ve come to the right place! More Bears in More Places.

It’s the perfect way to meet guys and make friends whether you are sitting at home or traveling abroad. Send and receive private instant messages, live video calls, pictures and video.

We also have an amazing Event section with complete and up-to-date Bear Run and Bear Bar listings. Tons of Galleries, Check-in features, Notes and More.

GROWLr allows only males 18 years or older. Photos depicting nudity or sex acts are strictly prohibited.

MR X is the first and only gay chat and gay dating app for men over 30. The guys on MR X are real men: confident, strong, down-to-earth men who have experience in the things that matter. Whether you’re over 30 — or just love grown men — it’s time to meet mister right or mister right now.

With more than 1 million profiles, gay chatting and dating are only a few taps away. MR X, the gay dating app makes it fun and easy for gay, bi, and curious guys to meet each other. Find great dates and make new friends with this free gay app for dating!

FEATURES

– Multiple Views: More ways to view the men on your screen. See who’s nearby, who’s far away, who’s interested in you and more.

– Adjust Views: Once you’ve chosen a view, fine-tune it to see the men you’re most interested in. Want to talk to someone right now or looking to meet that hot jackd guy you just saw at the gym? See who is closer to you or sort by last login. Use the age filter to zero in even more. Customize to keep things fresh.

– Better Profiles: Upload up to 25 photos to public and private galleries and spend less time sending pics back and forth and more time chatting to gay guys. Get into detail with profile text up to 3,000 characters.

– MR Right feature learns what kinds of men you like and sends you personalized introductions everyday

– Matches: We’ll let you know when you and another member both “Like” each other

MR X MEN

So, what kinds of gay men will you meet on MR X? Suit-and-tie professionals and carefree outdoorsmen; tattooed gay guys and big hairy bears; bearded guys, guys with facial scruff, bald guys, jocks, and muscle daddies. They all share the screen on MR X.

MR X is not another gay hookup style App, MR X men are straightforward, honest and generally friendlier than guys on other apps. They’ll tell you if they’re husky or skinny, if they’re HIV-positive or negative, if they’re 52 or 25. And they’re proud of who they are. Most of our members agree to the Code, a shared set of values regarding mutual respect and safety.

MR X PREMIUM

Get even more features when you upgrade to our premium subscription service:

– See up to seven times as many men as you would on the free version.

– Online-Only Mode lets you check out only who’s logged in and ready to talk right now.

– The Travel Feature allows you to pick any city and scan the MR X scene there.

– Read Message Notifications let you know the second your message is seen by the recipient.

– The Private Photo Bucket gives you the power to send additional photos more quickly and store your photos within MR X. That way, any risqué shots don’t have to sit in your iPhone albums where snooping friends or relatives might find them.

– MR X Premium also gives you unfiltered, unlimited access to misterapp.com where you can do advanced searches on dozens of different criteria.

MR X PREMIUM SUBSCRIPTION

Visit mrxapp.com/app/magnum to see a list of MR X Premium features. Choose a one-month ($9.99) or three-month ($24.99) subscription. Subscriptions auto-renew until cancelled. Payment for all purchases will be charged to your iTunes account upon confirmation of your purchase. Your subscription automatically renews unless auto-renew is turned off at least 24 hours before the end of the current period. Your iTunes account will automatically be charged at the same price for renewal within 24 hours prior to the end of the current period (one month for monthly subscribers or three months for quarterly subscribers) unless you change your subscription preferences in your iTunes account settings. No cancellation of the current subscription is allowed during an active subscription period.

MRX is for men over 18 years old only. Photos that display nudity or are sexually suggestive will be removed immediately. Please visit mrxapp.com/app/tos to see our terms of use and privacy policies.

MANHUNT is the most iconic gay social app for gay, bi, trans, and queer guys worldwide. Manhunt is the most direct way for men to meet other men. Being around since 2001 has allowed Manhunt to attract the older and wiser crowd of guys. Narrow your search based on interests, photo filters, and location. Chat with millions of men online now via your existing account or by creating a new one for free. So what are you waiting for? Cut to the chase with Manhunt now.

FEATURES:

* Millions of men

* See who’s checking you out

* Profiles with up to 16 photos

* Message notifications

* Photo editor

* Unlock private photos

* Easy filters

* Buddy & Block lists

* Share your location

* Send winks

* Worldwide search

MANHUNT VIP FEATURES:

* Unlimited full profile views

* Unlimited full-size photo views

* Unlimited Conversations

* Unlimited Starred Conversations

* Unlimited Buddies & Blocks

* Complete Conversation History

* Unsend unread messages

* Additional photo editing tools

* Banner ad-free experience

With loads of free features, ROMEO is the best way to meet new people & friends and have meaningful or more casual encounters.

Get the free ROMEO App now and chat with lots of gay guys, nearby and worldwide. Create your profile and start chatting and video calling within minutes!

10 ROMEO App features you’ll LOVE:

● A fresh and intuitive design

● There is no limit to the number of guys you see around you

● Free chat and video calling

● Browse profiles with lots of pictures and information to find your match

● Create your customised profile and share what you are into

● Plenty of filter options for you to find the guys you like

● Discover new guys in your area

● See who recently came online

● Hide your real GPS position

● Set your location to anywhere in the world with our travel feature

● Share your private pics for a limited time

● Connect and chat with LGBTQ+ guys around the world

ROMEO, also known as Planetromeo or Gayromeo, is one of the world’s most exciting dating app and social network for the gay and bi guys and trans people. We embrace diversity and support our global LGBT+ family. Our apps and website provide a friendly online space for gay guys to hang out, chat, meet and date.

ROMEO

Dates Friends Love

● Website version also available

● ROMEO App is for guys aged 18 and over.

Thanks for considering the free ROMEO App! We’d love to hear from you guys, so don’t hesitate to leave us a review!

Gay dating has never been easier. Chat with your date, find love and make friends. Happy dating!

Jack’d

Diverse. Inclusive. Fun! This is what distinguishes Jack’d from all other queer dating apps. With 5 million people spanning 2,000 cities in 180 countries, we’re proud to be the most inclusive dating app for QPOC.

Jack’d is an independent, LGBTQ+ owned and operated company, and we use the app we build. We believe in the power of technology to create community and to connect with each other. Whether you’re looking to chat, make friends, find love, or keep it casual, you’ll find it on Jack’d.

New and improved Jack’d features you’ll love:

REDESIGNED PROFILES:

Swipe through multiple pics and quickly message, favorite, or unlock private photos

DISCOVER:

A new way to connect with other people based on recent activity

BROWSE:

See everyone nearby or expand your view to people around the globe

SEARCH & FILTERS:

Search by who they are, what they’re into, relationship status, and more

VIEWERS:

See who’s viewed your profile for free

MESSAGING:

Streamlined design makes it easier to chat and connect

PRIVATE ALBUMS:

Easily organize and share your photos and videos

VIDEO SHARING:

You can now send and receive unlimited private videos

MATCH:

See a new group of compatible matches every day and swipe up to view their full profile

UPGRADED EXPERIENCE:

Updated technology, improved stability, better spam protection, and fewer ads

SAFE & SECURE:

We never share your data with Facebook, 3rd party ad networks, or data aggregators.

COMMUNITY SUPPORT:

Our support team is available 24/7 to help with any questions or feedback.

Ready for more? Upgrade your Jack’d experience for more features and more freedom. With a Jack’d Pro subscription, you get:

* 1,000 people in your Nearby grid

* Unlimited favorites & blocks

* Unlimited Matches

* Unlimited private album photos

* More search filters & profile insights

* See everyone who viewed you

Question? Comments? We’re available any time at support.jackd.com.

Jack’d Privacy Policy: jackd.com/privacy

Jack’d Terms of Service: jackd.com/to

Tim Cook: Being Gay is God’s Greatest Gift

Tim Cook, who has made history as the first CEO to announce that he is gay among the top 500 companies in the world, mentioned being gay as the ‘greatest gift of god’ and stated that he made the statement to support those who were oppressed because of their sexual orientation.

“I explained it because kids who read the rumors that I was gay on the internet started writing to me. In the letters and emails they told me that they were ostracized, bullied and abused because of their sexual orientation,” said Apple CEO, who emphasized privacy, but ultimately helped others by revealing his sexual identity. He said he decided it would be selfish to remain silent while he could.

“I had to do something for them,” said Cook, adding that he wanted to show gay kids that they can move forward in life the way you are and achieve great things.

Expressing that he was ‘shocked’ when he learned that Fortune was the first CEO to announce his homosexuality in the 500 largest companies index, Cook expressed his satisfaction that other CEOs followed in his footsteps.

“I learned what it means to be a minority. The feeling of being a minority gives people a certain level of empathy for other people who are not in the majority. This is also very useful for a leadership role, very instructive. gave the message.

Underlining that he is ‘proud of being gay and explaining it’, Cook emphasized “God’s greatest gift to me”.

Lesbians, women of genius

Lesbians, women of genius: Hong Kong star Denise Ho, who is mobilizing for democracy, iconic football player Megan Rapinoe who refuses to meet Trump, Adèle Haenel who broke Caesar: lesbians are making history, says activist Alice Coffin popularizing the concept of “lesbian genius.”

This article is from Libé’s feminism and sexuality newsletter L.

Lesbians have genius and we don’t know that. Collective Barbe and activist Alice Coffin from the European Lesbian Conference said, “They play a leading role in many social and political movements, and this is unspoken. There are many examples throughout history. Hong Kong pop star Denise Ho and the Umbrella Democratic movement, iconic American football player Megan Rapinoe. and refusal to see Trump in the White House, Black Lives Matter, founders of the black American movement, or tennis player Billie Jean King, who demanded equal pay to men in the 70s …

Being a lesbian is not only a romantic or sexual trend, but also a way to exist in the world. Doing it without people’s eyes will provide considerable political freedom, greater freedom of psychic thinking. “Lesbian genius is the capacity to think and grasp these mechanisms of society that are completely different from the codes prevailing in patriarchy. This genius is also the power to cultivate them, ”explains Alice Coffin. The concept was born in European militant circles, the French activist made a book for it and it was released by Grasset this spring. Speaking of lesbian genius is fighting one of the biggest discriminations lesbians suffer: invisibility. “The word ‘lesbian‘ is difficult to pronounce even in public spaces. With that word, we had to fight against Google that was sending spam messages directly,” Alice Coffin said.

The Ongoing Debate of Same-Sex Marriages

Look it up in the dictionary, seriously: it’s “the state of being united to a person of the opposite sex as husband or wife in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law” or “the state of being united to a person of the same sex in a relationship like that of a traditional marriage” or even simply put an “intimate or close union.”

You won’t find any inherent ‘Christian’ origin to the word. In fact, according to the Merriam-Webster, the word was first used in the 14th century. Think about the origins of God’s Word, and you can surmise that the actual English word of ‘marriage’ wasn’t obviously used! It’s a translation.

So…. That being said, why are people still arguing like little children over a ‘word?’

You have your traditionals, mostly religious, taking ownership of the institute itself, and same-sex couples wanting the right to use the word as well. The fact is this: a marriage is a marriage, regardless of same sex or traditional man and wife. What you call it doesn’t matter. Look at the dictionary again.

For Lord’s sake, we’re not going to call them ‘unions’ or anything, or else we’ll have to change a bunch of other things: holy matrimony to legal union, getting married to getting ‘unioned,’ marriage vows to union promises (because you know the religious rite would be all over the word ‘vow,’ too).

Get off the high horse with the ‘marriage is from God’ stuff and let it go. Homosexuals have every right to get ‘married’ as anyone else, right? Let’s not twist and confuse the system anymore by injecting more lingo into something that should be simple (after all, marriage is a lot of things but simple!).

Alternative Treatments for AIDS

Alternative therapies sustain a certain level of support among patients and practitioners. Both allopathic and homeopathic clinicians have a credible place in the treatment of various disorders. But what non-conventional therapies, if any, exist for those suffering from HIV-related maladies?

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention in America, the best recommendation is to find a balance between conventional and alternative applications. New drugs are being tested regularly in the attempt to find both a cure and a means for slowing the progression of sicknesses related to a compromised immune system. Early diagnosis is crucial to getting the jump on HIV, the virus responsible for the breakdown of human immunity and contraction of full-blown AIDS. The CDC suggests any number of modalities to alleviate symptoms of the disease, with intent to restore an element of vitality to the person suffering.

SPECIFIC THERAPIES

When prescribed a regimen of pharmaceuticals, three additional categories of treatment are typically recommended for nearly all levels of disease: mind-body, nutrition and physical therapies. Certain types of massage have proven effective in alleviating symptoms related to chronic aches and pains, and for assisting circulation of bodily fluids and nerve activity. The ability to maintain control of one’s mind is critical to any approach; a sense of well-being and peace must be actively cultivated. Research has shown that discoveries in biofeedback and thought reinforcement have measurable positive effects on all people. Dietitians agree that the tried and true adages hold up: we are what we eat, garbage in – garbage out. Those suffering with more seriously compromised immune systems will likely benefit from a targeted nutritional supplement approach.

Remember that an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. Being in good health doesn’t excuse us from keeping vigil; sickness seems always to be looking for a chink in the armor. Regarding the holistic approach to healthiness, be sure to get the opinions and recommendations of qualified practitioners and the people they’ve treated. Such input will prove invaluable to recovery.

Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans & Intersex Lifestyle

Gay lifestyle consists of getting up, showering, get dressed, have breakfast, off to work, get groceries, cook dinner, do laundry, clean house, pay bills, shop online at sites like amazon.com, watch TV, and sleep. Lesbian and gay people live their lives like everyone that have families, jobs, bills, and housework. Lifestyle means your way of living, so why is “lifestyle” applied to the LGBTI community?

When a gay or lesbian person hears someone referring to their life and sexuality as “lifestyle,” “lifestyle choice,” “choice,” or “sexual preference,” it makes them cringe.

Biological studies indicate sexuality is not a choice. Gay people have to cope with prejudice, hostility, discrimination, and rejection from society, making no sense to choose being gay. Willfulness and choice has no part in who becomes homosexual. Besides, who would actually choose to be isolated, ridiculed, bullied, teased, hated, beat up, called names, rejected by friends and family, targeted in hate crimes, murder, and sexual assault and have a risk of anxiety, self- harm, depression, and suicide?

Being a young LGBTI is painful and extremely difficult to admit, even to themselves, let alone to everyone else. No one likes to feel different, rejected, or looked down upon. Most people want to be accepted and fit into our society. Being gay or lesbian isn’t only about sexuality, it’s about culture, relationships, love, and family also. They fall in love, have long term relationships, start families, raise children, and deserve to be validated and respected for who they are. Being shown respect helps raise confidence in themselves and makes them feel accepted.

Same Sex Marriages & Marriage Equality

A socially or legally recognized union of two people of the same social gender or biological sex is called a gay marriage. Countries have legally formalized marriages of same-sex couples. Recognizing such marriages has become a political, moral, civil rights, religious, and social issue in many countries. Many conflicts have arisen over allowing these couples to marry, whether the term marriage or civil union be used, or be granted limited rights or equal rights.

An argument supporting marriages of the same sex says that denying legal access to benefits and marriage discriminates based on their sexual orientation. Another supporting argument is that physical, psychological, and financial well being are all enhanced by being married. Also the children of these couples will benefit if raised by both parents in a recognized legal union that is supported by society. Court documents state if gay women and men are singled out as being ineligible to marry it stigmatizes them and invites discrimination of the public against them. Other arguments state that there are social consequences of gay marriages, parenting concerns, tradition, and religious grounds.

Gay marriages are legal in Belgium, Argentina, Iceland, Canada, Norway, Netherlands, South Africa, Spain, Portugal, and Sweden. Mexico City, USA and more.. performs gay marriages but has to have recognition of all the Mexican states. Attitudes towards gay marriages range from praise, to indifference, toleration, and prohibition. Some opposers argue that religious freedoms will be eroded, and while good for a couple, the rights of children are undermined. Some supporters think the government should not regulate personal relationships.